So, Brett Favre is on your children’s ministry team… what should you do?
First, and foremost, don’t panic!
Your Brett Favre wants to succeed… it’s now your goal to get this leader to a place where they are helping your team and not distracting it.
Now, you may not be able to get your Brett Favre to a place where he can ever beat the Dallas Cowboys (Jonathan Cliff… I’m not sure what the ministry parallel is to this. We await your wisdom in the comments section), but you can get to a place where having Brett Favre on your team makes your ministry better and more effective.
Brett Can’t Be the Best Player on Your Team
As long as your Brett Favre feels as though they are carrying your team, they won’t be able to take direction from you and they’ll maintain a diva-esque personality. If you are committed to keeping this leader on your team, you need to invest heavily into another team member and give them the keys to an area of your ministry. In the same way that the Minnesota Vikings’ offense will continue to showcase Adrian Peterson… you need to be able to showcase someone on your team that you trust can carry the load. This will help define your Brett’s role in your ministry area – it’s not about them… it’s about the team that they are a part of (and, ultimately, it’s about serving Christ). Surround Brett Favre with talent, and he’ll be more likely to conform to the team.
Brett Favre Needs to Win
Brett Favre has always been the happiest and most effective when he’s on a winning team. Your Brett Favre is no different. If your Brett isn’t following your directions, try redefining what a “win” looks like for your ministry team. When defining a “win” for your team, make sure that the results are things that your leaders can observe. Maybe a “win” for your team is when a child can answer the two questions parents often ask when they pick children up: “Did you have fun?” and “What did you learn?” Whatever your criteria becomes, make sure that you point out these victories to your team in large settings. Brett Favre wants to be a winner. He wants to be contributing to a winning team – you need to show him what a “win” looks like.
Brett Favre Needs Your Encouragement
At the end of the day, Brett Favre is just like any of us. When Brett feels like he’s the only one playing the game the way it should be played, the world becomes a lonely place. You need to find out if your Brett Favre is in a Small Group, a Bible Study, an Accountability Group… whatever it is that your church has to keep its members engaged in the church community – your Brett needs to know that he’s not alone. By building strong friendships in the church, your Brett will be less likely to leave your ministry for the one down the road. With a commitment to the church community, your Brett will be more willing to put his ego aside for the sake of the team. However, if your Brett feels as though he is on an island, expect him to operate outside of your leadership.
Your ministry team is made up of an assortment of characters and you have been called to work alongside them. At times, that means we need to invest more heavily into team members. Other times, we need to set high expectations and hold our team accountable. There are even times when we need to have a leader over for dinner to let them know that we care about them and that they are not serving in a bubble. Whatever the next step is for you and your team, hopefully this series has helped you out.
What are your experiences with having a Brett Favre on your ministry team? Are there other tips that you’d like to share with the community?
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